OPO: Other People's Opinions
What do you do when you wake up in a funk? I mean a funk where you feel off and agitated? Or, when (let me just be blunt and bold here), you feel just plain old fucking pissed off at the world?
I usually love the mornings. They are a peaceful, quiet time... coffee, protein bar and time with myself. But, lately, I am waking up pissed off at the world and it scares me to death. I am scared of going down the "rabbit hole" - a place I have visited too many times. It is a negative state, a dark cloud - a lonely place that doesn’t sell my favorite yoga pants. It's where my Hag in the Attic - my bitchy inner critic - lives. And she can drag me down fast!
I've been waking up hating everything, crying, proclaiming I am done with my "girls" (Grace is an on-going sick dog). Then it all spirals into thoughts that I’m not a good enough mom / person.
My mouth is fowl - I spew shit out of it I don’t mean. My stomach becomes sick, my jaw is clenched to the nth degree, and my low back is hurting. It is, quite frankly, carrying the weight of the world.
Body/image hate - something I had worked through and am now revisiting - is showing back up. I am stressed out to the max and back. I am convinced I am the only one that ever gets like this.
And... I bring all this onto myself.
What the hell is going on here?
I have the tools to decompress. I know what to do, but all I want to do is beat the shit out of someone or something... right NOW! (It's okay - you can trust me that I will not cause harm to me, you or anything else.)
I do know I am off. I know I need to get this out there - get vulnerable and transparent as all hell. Be seen and be heard.
I let it all go.
A positive person can have down moments or more. Silver linings come from moments like this, right? Growth, learnings and such...
OPOs: Other people's opinions
Here is what is throwing me off: OPOs. Other people opinions and expectations.We are coming into the Fall and I feel like, yet again, Summer has passed me by. I did nothing.
I see all these women that have friends - girlfriend on boats, going up North on girls' weekends. I don’t have that here in Michigan. My peeps are out of state and, some, out of the country.
Are there too many “summer” expectations? Travel, get out, do this that, but what happens if you don’t? Winter is coming, blah, blah, blah.
How do I realign (not lower) my expectations? How do I change up my conversation? (And, yes, I know this is what I teach. The teacher is always the student too.)
How beautiful and miraculous this actual moment is
I let go of the OPOs and release the shoulds I am placing on myself . It leads me to the comparison road and, O.M.G. - no wonder I am angry at myself! My Hag has me right where she wants me.
It doesn't completely remove that wet blanket that I feel over me, so I stop everything that has to do with work today. I grab a snack, go to my place that I love with my journal and Papermate markers, count my blessings, and surrender to the tears of overwhelm. An overwhelm of gratitude - for me, for my being, for how beautiful and miraculous this actual moment is.
It doesn't cure everything, but it slows me down enough so one more step doesn’t go deeper into the rabbit hole.
What's your story?
What do you do when you start to slide into the rabbit hole of shame and blame? I'd love to hear all about what it is you do when the Hag in the Attic gets rears her ugly voice. Drop a comment below or shoot me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
9/3/2019 10:35:52 am
I definitely needed to read this today. One of the things I do is try to combat the thoughts with "the other side". Or to take a step back because sometimes it means I'm pushing too hard on something.
9/13/2019 08:54:33 am
Oops, I am late to the game. I am using the early morning hours today to catch up on my reading (blogs, emails....). Thank you so much for sharing your story. I think we've all been there. These days can be especially tough when your best friends are out of state / country. When I wake up in a funk I know that the best approach to get out of it is to walk, write (journal) and to listen to loud music. I might even sing too (as long as nobody is in the house as there is no need to torture another person just because I woke up in a funk). After I get rid of all the negative energy, I mediate. Then I am ready for the day. Maybe a good hour later as planned but better late than in a bad mood!
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