I was putting off adulting this morning, as I am wont to do some days - scrolling through Facebook. Most of my feed is filled with back-to-school photos and diatribes about Nike. (For the record, I love your back-to-schoo photos and Nike’s latest ad.), After about an hour of scrolling (don’t judge), I came across this little meme…
"Your circle should want you to win. Your circle should clap the loudest when you have good news. If they don’t, get a new circle.”
I love the sentiment, but if you know me at all, you know I shudder at the word should.
Should is the little voice in your head that someone else put there - the “hag in the attic” as Kim calls her. Should is how other people want you to show up in the world. Should is someone else’s expectations laid upon your shoulders. We don’t do should at the SheHive - only must or need.
So I went back and rewrote the meme.
My circle MUST want me to win. My circle MUST clap the loudest when I have good news. If they don’t, I will get a new circle.
Now that’s powerful! What a promise I have just made to myself.
Should versus must isn’t just semantics. One gives your power away, the other empowers you.
Words create worlds. How we talk about ourselves - and how we talk to ourselves - matters. What is the message you want to send to yourself today?
Have a few encouraging words for yourself today? Share them and inspire others by leaving a comment below!
With much love and gratitude,