Last week was the 3rd annual “Camp Aunt Corinne.” My nephew, who is now 14 comes to stay with me for a week. During our time I choose fun activities in the area for us to do together. (Per his request, he also gets to go to Dave and Buster’s and plays video games until the money I give him runs out.
This week we went on a long bike ride and several shorter rides to get ice cream, spent an hour at WhoaZone in Holly; an inflatable adventure course floating on the lake. An afternoon at Tree Runner in West Bloomfield; an adventure course up in the trees with zip lines and repelling. And my nephew’s favorite, DEFY Trampoline park in Commerce; think Air Time plus America Ninja Warrior. Although, for the record, I did not participate in the trampoline park day for bladder related reasons. (I know you ladies can relate).
Welcome to our newest support group, perfectionists anonymous. Hi, my name is Corinne and I’m a perfectionist. Hi Corinne!
Come on ladies, you know you need to join this group.
Time and again, when I meet with women at the SheHive, I am struck with the truth that we all need to be in perfectionist recovery. In my assessment this idea that we need to be perfect usually presents in one of three ways:
The holiday madness has begun at Chez Rogers... I’ve finished most of my shopping, distributed three of five Advent calendars that I created for a few lucky people in the family. A plan has been made for buying a tree - a tradition my husband requested so that our house can smell like evergreen. I found fun wrapping paper with tropical scenes (totally my style) and one with T-Rexes wearing Santa hats!
Last month I wrote about standing up to bullies, setting boundaries and creating a life of badassery. At the end of that blog post I promised a second blog on how to confront people with whom we wish to maintain our relationship. So, here goes!
I know you want a simple, step-by-step, process because… me too, sister! But I have to confess, it’s just not that easy. So, before I attempt to put a very complex, dynamic and personal process into a few steps, a few caveats:
The process isn’t magic. Even knowing the process, you may still have to work through each step for a while before you know what you want to confront and why you need to confront.
I hope you have a wonderful family full of supportive, loving and intelligent people. And, if you do, please know - I’m jealous! I’m jealous because my family is full humans - opinionated, flawed, and sometimes stupid people. And included among those stupid people are some bullies.
Mind you, they aren’t your run-of-the-mill schoolyard jerks who kick your shin and take your lunch money. These bullies are lovely-looking, usually very-nice people, who hand you a cocktail and then tell you how you don’t know enough, aren’t good enough, and basically suck. I have left many encounters with these bullies, dumbstruck and shaking my head, wondering how I ended up feeling so awful after such a nice party.