In addition to running the SheHive with Andrea...
I still keep a part-time day job as a organizational development consultant. More often than not, when a client calls me, they are in crisis and need help finding their way out. And more often than not they are in crisis because a portion of their team has stopped talking to each other.
Every time I witness one of these breakdowns it breaks my heart. People are generally so good and want to do good, but it only takes a few people unwilling, or too scared, to speak to start the break down of the system. We see it everywhere - in our governing bodies, in our families, in our friendships, and in our workplaces…
One of the many things I love about the SheHive is that it is a given that our starting point is going to be a conversation. Women walk into the door expecting to talk and share. I have long-believed that the power of opening up and hearing, “Me too!” can solve so much of what ails us - loneliness, fear, anxiety, disconnection.
And trust me, there is always a "Me too!"
I heard it in our first Life List class when one brave women stood up and declared, “I want more sex in my marriage!”
I heard it in the private event we held last Friday for a group of women that gathered to decompress after the election when one brave women stood up and declared, “I’m not done being angry!”
I heard it at the Self IMPROVment class when one brave women said, “All my friends are known for something. I don’t know what I’m known for except wanting to be known for something.”
I heard it in our Waggle last week when one brave women quietly shared, “I want to be the kind of woman my children can be proud of. I don’t know if I am.”
I heard it in our Bad Ass Ladies Supper Club when one brave woman cried, “I want to be okay with my body just like it is, but I’m not.”
I heard it in our first Lady Boss session when one brave business owner said, “I’m afraid to put this idea out into the world if it’s not perfect. I feel like I only have one shot.”
In every single one of those instances someone else bravely stood up and said, “You are not alone. Me too! Now let’s figure out how to make it happen together.”
I'm learning to trust the wisdom of the universe...
We didn’t plan it this way, but I don’t think it is any coincidence that the SheHive opened exactly at a time when many women are feeling a heightened sense of confusion, fear and powerlessness because of the state of dysfunction in our government. For the past two weeks I have seen woman after woman psychologically limp into the SheHive searching for a glimmer of hope and leaving an hour or two later with a full heart and full spirit.
You are not powerless and the first step in reclaiming your power doesn’t have to be a big or lofty act - it can be as simple as having a conversation. Gathering… connecting… sharing… talking… is one of the most brave, and nurturing and rebellious acts we take together as women.
I quite like that the SheHive is quickly becoming a group of brave, badass women simply by virtue of our willingness to share with each other.
I swear to the gods and goddesses that if we ever have the means to do so, I’m buying biker leathers (pink for me) for every brave woman that crosses our doorstep with a big-ass patch sewn on the back that reads, “Truth-Telling, Dream-Pushing, Free-Sharing, Vulnerably-Brave Badass Warrior Goddess” (okay, we might wordsmith it just a little).
Until that time, I can only promise to do my damnedest, along with Andrea, to keep the lights on, the doors open, the tea kettle brewing and the conversation and gratitude flowing along for each and every one of you brave badasses that shows up to share.
Go on with your badass, brave, rebel self, SHEro!
With much love and gratitude,
Ursula Adams, MSPOD