If all goes according to plan...
I’ll be sipping an umbrella drink on a beach with Mr. Adams while you read this. If I’m not, chances are it's because I’m still sleeping off day one of our Great Dominican Adventure of 2017.
Or… because the plane went down on the way to Punta Cana.
Which is a completely morbid thought, I know. But it's a thought I have every time I book a flight. What if the plane crashes? I do all my laundry and clean my house like June Cleaver on Adderall before every flight because, if that bad boy goes down, I don’t want whomever has to tend to my affairs afterwards to know just how badly I kind of suck at the whole adulting thing.
Has it been enough?
In all seriousness though, I don't spend a ton of time obsessing over death, but I have to admit to having spent a considerable amount of time thinking about it and my subsequent legacy over the past few years. It’s one of my favorite hobbies and, in an odd way, kind of my job.
Someone really smart (okay, it was my kid), once told me that the real purpose of shavasana - corpse pose - is to prepare you to learn how to die. So now, at the end of every one of my yoga practices, I lie in shavasana and - after I’ve stopped cursing my favorite yogi’s love of a 15 minute pigeon pose - I ask myself, “If this really was my death, would it have all been enough?”
Yes, it has been enough.
Sixteen thousand, nine hundred and forty-five days on this earth and I can finally say, in all honesty - yes, it was enough. I know 2016 was a shit year for many, but for me it was the year that I dared greatly to become the person I really wanted to be - a person who lives without regret. It was the year that I decided that I was the only person who was going to define my destiny. It was the year I decided to stop talking about my dream and decided to make it happen.
My gentle snowflakes, it has been enough. And if the plane ride to Punta Cana ends up being my demise… well, what a fan-fucking-tastic exclamation mark on a life well-lived.
That’s not to say that I don’t want more...
Or that there isn’t room to grow, places to see, people to meet and lessons to learn. It simply means I’m not broken and I don’t need to be fixed - I only seek to be a more full, truer version of myself than I was 10 years ago… 10 months ago… 10 minutes ago.
I believe we can all lead wonderful lives filled with a comfortable tension between being happily-satisified and wanting more for ourselves.
More of me in 2017
It’s one of the many reasons I am so looking forward to 2017 at the SheHive. I can’t wait to carry my beautiful whole self into that beautiful whole space and become a truer version of myself - a woman who is a little bit better with her finances and a little more conscious of her health. A woman closer to getting the book out of her head and on to paper. A woman who is a little more badass than she was the year before. A woman who has grown her tribe exponentially.
And, mostly, a woman who can continue to say, “Yes. It was all enough.”
And that will have been legacy enough.
With much love and gratitude,
Ursula Adams, MSPOD
I'm sending out a big HaLLeLuJaH because the new year is almost here. Although I will always remember 2016 as the year the SheHive was born, and that's pretty effing fantastic, the whole vibe in the mass consciousness of society has been disheartening to say the least... and I'm ready for a brand new fresh clean sparkling new year!
Bring on 2017! There will be no resolutions for us at the SheHive. The word "resolution" sounds negative and bland and so very business-like. Resolutions are loaded with failure and fixing problems. No thank you! We don't need fixing.
For us, January means dreams and wishes and visions and opportunities and designing a year around intentions, passions and purpose. It's about creating positive rituals. It's about expansion and growth. Celebration. In general, it's about a brand new year of being BADASS.
1.Adjective: Used to describe one who totally owns who he/she is, is uninhibited in who they are and doesn't let what other people think affect his/her actions/decisions.
At The SheHive, we are supporting the full scope of badassery for women.
Career Badass: Lady Bosses unite in our Lady Boss Leadership Network, but first work on making your resume badass with Resume Gallery Night!
Emotional Badass: We are emotional beings and we've got you covered. Start the new year with the SheSoul Seminar which includes passion planning, learn how to Keep Commitments to Yourself, join our Women's Empowerment Circle for a therapeutic experience, and if you're divorced we're supporting you in our Divorce with Dignity monthly group.
Financial Badass: ChaChing! Become a Financially Fit Female by exploring your personality to see how you can be masterful with your money.
Creative Badass: You'll be interested in our monthly Crafting and Cocktails series, where we will be manifesting happiness by Creating Happiness Jars and crafting Vision Boards. Also, we're so excited about finding our voice with our new Writing to Open Your Heart Workshop.
Physical Badass: Recreate your relationship with food in this monthly emotional eating support group. Also, new moms Get Fit with a seminar about prenatal and postnatal fitness and health. Let's do this together!
Social Badass: Toast your accomplishments at our Toast2U monthly celebration, participate in meaningful conversations at the SheHive Book Club, and of course just be BADASS while eating at The Badass Ladies Supper Club. The name says it all.
Spiritual Badass: If you're a Soul Seeking Superstar, join us for our meditations and tea, or commit to an inner revolution at our Warrior Goddess Series.
That's just the tip of the badass iceberg friends! Check out our whole lineup at the SheHive Class Calendar.
One of my favorite all time badasses is Madonna.
Recently, she won Billboard's Woman of the Year and gave an emotional heartfelt speech. Her message to "seek out strong women, to befriend, to align yourself with, to learn from, to be inspired by, to collaborate, to support, and to be enlightened by", reminds me about the importance of the community that Ursula and I are building with all of your needs in mind. We promise you will find yourself find in good company at the SheHive; a place to become, belong, and embrace your badass self!
Cheers and Love,
I always get a little sad this time of year...
There’s no sun (thanks, Obama). I eat too much (because Thanksgiving stuffing is a delicious gift from the gods). I’m stressed about finances (because I’m married to a tattooed, goateed, 6’2” eight-year-old-at-heart who wants “six small, four medium and one, maybe two, large gifts” - all wrapped in different paper - under the Christmas tree). And even with all the holiday parties and functions, there’s usually a little bit too much alone time for this raging extrovert as work winds down for the year.
This year it is especially rough because there’s that election thing that is still THE topic of conversation everywhere I turn and then there’s that thing where I quit my job, cashed in my retirement and put my very personal dream out into the world and, you know… BLEW UP every bit of security and stability I’ve ever known.
At least once (or eleventy-billion) times a day I have to remind my self that I’m not going to die fat, poor and alone. Well, maybe fat because… cherry cordial ice cream. (Heyyyyy Homemade, what up, boo? Call me!)
But poor and alone? Probably not.
At least once a day I also have to remind myself that it’s okay to feel a little blue this “most wonderful” time of the year when I am expected to be overcome with joy and gratitude. We don’t stop being who we are, with our own set of unique needs, just because there’s a holiday around the corner.
Are you like me?
If, like me, you’re feeling a little (or a lot) blue, or you’re facing a few shame triggers right now - there’s a line up at the SheHive the next couple days that is going to speak your language. Tonight we’re claiming our fears out loud and sending them off in a celebratory fashion at the Fear Funeral. Tomorrow our emotional eating support group meets for the first time and on Saturday, author/speaker Anna Oginsky, brings her Space to Grieve workshop to the SheHive.
And if, also like me, you’re in the mood for fun, celebration and gratitude - check out next week’s line up. We’re doing some improv, launching our Crafting and Cocktail series with a Gratitude Jar workshop and bringing the SheHive book club together for a second time. It’s going to be a blast!
I’m diving in to all of it because there is no rule that says we can’t be joyous, grateful and still a little afraid and sad. We are multifaceted, complicated, messy and beautiful in that way. And I love us for it. :)
Have a great week, SheHiver, and come out and see us soon! We welcome you - all parts of you - here.
With much love and gratitude,
Ursula Adams, MSPOD