Friday night I slept sitting up - fully clothed, hair done, makeup still on - just so I could get an extra hour of sleep in between the Bad Ass Ladies Supper Club and a class I wanted to attend the next morning. In the end, I got 30 minutes of extra sleep and used the other half hour to sweep my floors... because that’s how we roll as women.
As awesome as it is seeing your vision come to life and being your own #LadyBoss, starting a small business has introduced me to a new level of being overwhelmed, tired and scared.
I am lucky that I have an amazing partner in Andrea to share the heavy lift of getting the SheHive off the ground. We are both very conscious of burnout and consistently remind each other to go to yoga, or to meditate, or to sleep, or to connect with our families. It’s why I left town for a long weekend just days before our launch and it’s why Andrea is forbidden from stepping foot inside the SheHive right now.
Our emotional, spiritual and physical health is - and will always be - a cornerstone of the the success of the SheHive. This dream doesn’t continue if we can’t think straight, or keep our eyes open, or call upon the hope and joy that compelled us to start it all in the first place. Of course, we don’t always get it right - we neglect ourselves at times, we overcommit, and sometimes we end up sleeping upright in a recliner for a five hour “nap” - but we continue to strive for improvement.
We know that there are a ton of you out there in the same boat (and that many of you are rowing that boat all alone)... you’re tired, overwhelmed, scared and just about *this close* to being so burnt out that something - the job, the business, the marriage, the house, your health - is about to go down is a giant ball of flames.
We are begging you to gift yourself a few hours over the next few weeks so that you can come visit us at the SheHive and take care of yourself. And not just because we want your business (we do), but because we’ve been there.
We feel you and we want to help however we can.
So, SheHiver, where do you want to start?
If physical health is a priority, come spend a few hours exploring how essential oils can bring you a little peace and comfort or join our Emotional Eating support group.
If you want to invest in your emotional health, spend an hour meditating with us or come learn about a simple tool that will help keep some of the chaos at bay.
If you are craving social connection, join us for a free cup of coffee and conversation at 7 pm every Wednesday or sign up for our monthly book club.
If your spirit needs a lift, how about a quick dive into the cycles of women and nature or a joining a multi-part series on rediscovering the Warrior and the Goddess within?
Or, if you want to invest in your career, dive into a support network of women leaders who are working together to build their emotional survival skills or learn how to launch your own small business.
Whatever it is...
Whatever it is that gets you here, SheHiver - just get here. I swear to you that there is magic within these walls.
And there will be just a little more once you arrive...
With much love and gratitude,
A few weeks ago a wonderful woman named Jane walked into the SheHive and asked Andrea and I if she could coach us. After we stopped crying ALL THE TEARS (of gratitude, of course), we said yes. The first assignment Jane gave us was to write down what we wanted - for ourselves and for the SheHive - over the next three years.
In preparation for our first session with Jane, I spent some time revisiting the many lists I had made of my ideal life over the past few years - my Ultimate Life List (bucket list), homework I had done for a leadership development course in grad school, the first prototype of the SheHive (a sketchbook full of women drinking wine and laughing)… Much of it hadn’t been revisited in quite some time and some of it was no longer applicable or even important to me anymore. However, overwhelmingly, I was struck by how much of it had actually manifested.
There is power and magic in a good life list. It grounds you in your purpose, gives you hopes and dreams for the future, and helps you understand more about yourself. It also has a strange tendency to produce results.
Naming and claiming those things you want in life - giving rich detail to lofty and brave desires - is a critical first step in achieving the life you truly want to live. So much so that doing so is the cornerstone of many of the SheHive workshops, series and events.
Whether you want help creating your very first Ultimate Life List or have defined it already and want help achieving it, we sincerely want to be a part of making it happen at the SheHive. Check out next week’s upcoming events to find out how we can work on this journey together.]
Don't forget to check out all the other upcoming events at the SheHive next week including the free Weekly Waggle on Wednesday and the Essential Oils 101 and Everyday Toxins workshops.
SheHiver, life is SO GRAND on this side of the list!
With much love and gratitude,
P.S. The SheHive came to be after Andrea and I shared our written ideal lives with each other and found out they were SO similar. #TrueStory
I’m winding down from a long weekend spent with some of my best girlfriends from school - my hive, my wolf pack, my ride or dies. Friday night we were talking about our first impressions of each other.
“I was so intimidated,” Barbara said to me.
“Of me?!” I asked.
“Yes, you were so put together!”
“Put together? I discovered halfway through our first day that my pants were on backwards,” I laughed.
Which is totally a true story.
It’s amazing how much of another person’s story we write in our own heads before we actually get to know them. They’re better than us, more put together, smarter, funnier, prettier…
Or, rather, it's amazing the untrue story of ourselves we perpetuate. The story that says, “I am less than.”
Stepping into unfamiliar territory is, almost, always scary. I’m in Texas right now because the SheHive launches in two days and I am scared shitless. Scared that it’s going to fail, that I’m going to be a laughing stock, that it was a bad idea, that I’m going to bankrupt my family...
I knew it was important to immerse myself in a community of women that would help me remember that I am enough - now and always. It is all I want for every woman that eventually walks through the SheHive doors. Which got me thinking…
Walking through the SheHive doors for the first time is going to be a scary proposition for a lot of women - for me, for Andrea, for the instructors, for the women that just want to be a part of a community. We’re all worried that we might not fit in and that we’ll stand out (and not in a good way).
I want to say to you, in no uncertain terms, if you want to be a part of the SheHive - you are welcome. Not just welcome, Andrea and I really, really want you to be a part of our community and we want to be a part of yours. You are not a fluke, you are not the one women that is not going to "fit in" and we will do just about damn near anything to help you find comfort in this community. Period.
We are all scared at times. We are all worried that we might not fit in. We are all worried that we are going to be the laughing stock when everyone else finds out what a fraud we are. I promise you that you are nowhere near alone in these feelings and if you just step a foot in the door, magic can happen.
So, please, tell me what it is we can do to help you step foot inside the SheHive for the first time. Do you want a personal tour? A coupon so you can bring a friend along the first time? A bottle of wine and a late night talk about how much we value you (our personal favorite option, by the way)?
I'm game… because a whole bunch of women that mean the world to me just did the same for me and I am so very grateful.
There is magic and immense comfort to be discovered in the company of your future hive. How can we make it a little less scary to help you take the first step towards finding it?