I like to journal (thank you Christina) about my weekly struggles. It serves as a reminder of what I’m working towards. In my journaling, I’m all for embracing my triggers so that I may outlive them - so I create a weekly triggers list. I have been able to recognize my triggers through therapy and attending SheHive classes. And, every week, since I’ve started this tradition, I’ve given myself permission to get curious about why certain triggers are on my list. Whenever it seems like I’ve mastered one trigger, another comes on a tsunami wave that crashes me harder than before into the sand. Thankfully, journaling encourages me to coach myself through my triggers to create a new comfort zone with healthy boundaries. These new zones require forgiveness and self-compassion, and in turn, have promoted identification of my authentic self.
Last Saturday marked the three year anniversary of the SheHive. It’s hard to believe it’s already been three years. It’s also hard to believe that it’s only been three years. I feel like this community of women have always been a part of my life. And, I guess, in a way they have - I’ve carried the dream of them in my heart for far longer than the three years they’ve existed in my reality.
Opening any business - but particularly a business like the SheHive where there’s no immediate frame of reference to benchmark off of - brings so much uncertainty. It’s easy to lose sight of the lessons you are learning from the business when you are so mired in the day-to-day of the business.
But milestones like anniversaries and birthdays have a way of bringing about a sweet gift of reflection. Which is why I felt like it was very important to sit down tonight and take some time to reflect on what three years as an accidental entrepreneur has taught me.
So, without further adieu, three important lessons from three years of the SheHive…
Fall is such a lovely time of year - I love watching the trees change color on my daily commute, pulling sweaters out of the back of my closet, and cozying up with a hot cup of coffee. The natural transition of the season usually lends itself to taking stock before the end of the year.
I know it does for me.
What’s on your “Bucket List”? Are you working on fulfilling your life goals? Now is the time!
This year, I found myself walking down a dirt road, to a horse stable in Denver, Colorado. I crossed two wild turkeys, a labyrinth I didn’t know was onsite, endured thin air, and several inclines, before reaching my destination.
A few weeks ago I had a lovely visit with Laura, one of our former KeyHolders who has been living abroad for a few months now. She was in town for a quick weekend, so we set up shop on my couch and caught up for a few hours.
Laura and her husband had recently spent some time in the Netherlands and we were discussing the differences between life here in the US and life there. The culture in the Netherlands is all about conformity - based upon the Law of Jante, a code of conduct that portrays doing things out of the ordinary, or being overtly personally ambitious as unworthy and inappropriate.
“I feel like it’s almost the anti-SheHive,” Laura shared. “You have to look it up!”
So I did.
There are ten rules in the Law of Jante, all expressive of variations on a single theme: You are not to think you're anyone special or that you're better than us.